Fear.


Does reading that word make you not want to even read this post? 

I am not talking about BOO horror movie fear, but the kind of fear that holds you back from doing what your heart wants.


Something we hear all the time is “I would love to come paint but… (insert excuse here).  Now, sometimes that excuse is money and I totally get that and it is a legitimate problem.  But most often the excuse is fear.  Fear of coming alone, fear of being bad at painting, fear of judgement, fear that no one will want to come with them, fear of leaving their families at home and doing something for themselves, fear of making a commitment to an event and actually having the gumption to follow through and show up. ​

​“I would love to come paint but I don’t have the money.”  I get it, I really do.  But are you buying material things you don’t need as a way to cope with other things in your life?  Are you going out to eat a bunch?  Are you paying for subscriptions you don’t use?  Are you mindlessly ordering shit on Amazon?  (Yeah, I do that.)  Think of what would make you happier this next month.  Ordering a pair of yoga pants you will put in your drawer or taking an entire evening to do something you want to do.  Experiences are wonderful because even after they are over, you have the memory of the time spent doing something worthwhile.

“I would love to come paint but I will be bad it.  I can’t even draw a stick figure.”  This is the one I hear the most.  As humans and in the society we live in, we expect to be experts at everything.  The media shows perfection, shows people doing it all and doing it well, they ridicule failure.  But what do all people who are good at something have in common?  A beginning.  A beginning where no one knew who they were and they didn’t know what they were doing.  Allow yourself to be a beginner.  Allow yourself to be bad at something so you can improve at it and enjoy the process along the way.  Will you be amazing your first class?  Probably not.  It is like any skill, it takes practice and persistence to improve.  But will you have fun?  YES! ​

“I would love to come paint but someone will judge me.”  Nope.  We are a very supportive group.  We are mostly all self taught artists, who still struggle getting an idea from thought to creation.  You will be surrounded by other people in your same boat.  Everyone is much kinder to those around them, than they are to themselves.  We talk in class about letting go of comparison and perfection.  It is a constant theme.  Don’t let that stop you.  And remember to be kind to yourself. ​

​But now we look forward to 2020 and all that the future holds for us.  We already have our assignments for the first few months.  Here are the paintings we are most excited for between now and July.


💗Cara:  I love my carnations scheduled for January for the Birth Flower series.  They are totally my style.  I am most excited to paint a manatee in March because I haven’t painted that subject before.   (JAN AND MAR)


💗Nancy:  “Pupcasso! He was fun to paint! Love using random colors and just getting kinda messy with him. He reminds me of my artist friends age 5 to ?? When we let ourselves let go and not think too much, our paintings turn out the best!” (JAN)


💗Rhonda:  “Probably the Geisha. I’m hoping it won’t scare people off just because it’s a face. Faces aren’t hard when you aren’t trying to capture the essence of someone you know. It’s freeing painting nondescript faces.”  (FEB)


💗Heather:  “Lettering. It's fun to show people all the different styles and help them find their own.”  (JAN)


💗Blair:  “I’m excited for my camera. It’s something that isn’t very “me”. But I think it will do well and people will like it!”  (FEB)


💗Dawn:  “I’d say the irises, which surprises me, because I wasn't looking forward to it, honestly. I was afraid of the assignment. However, once I decided on painting an abstract piece I was at home with it. I'm excited to bring abstract irises to Lush in March! I love doing abstracts and this one will be fun and individualistic like all abstracts!!”  (MAR)


💗Mena:  “I am most excited to create the masque for Mardi Gras’s. When I was little I used to play pretend that I would attend Masquerades. This painting for me is like walking down memory lane.”  (FEB)


💗Catelyn:  “I’m working on a genie lamp for February and a mulan inspired fan art piece for March. The genie lamp is awesome because it uses the paper towel technique for the night sky and splatter for the stars and the lamp is shiny so it’s got a lot of the things I have grown to love.”  (FEB AND MAR)


💗Sarah:  “I am most excited about the feather because it will be in colors that make me feel calm and relaxed and it will be mostly in my comfort zone/style.”  (FEB)

Remember you are supporting a small, locally owned independent business and each of these local artists each time you come to Lush Art.  We aren't a franchise, we are us!  All of our art is created in house by our instructors, we aren't getting them from a headquarters.  We are the headquarters.  We make art specifically with our customers in mind, taking suggestions and turning them into reality.   

​Cheers, The Lush Art Team

YOU are the reason we do what we do!  

This week is a time of thanks.  I think if most of us came to each week with a heart of thanks, the world would be a better place.  I want each of you to know that I am thankful for each of you.  I am thankful to those of you that attend and tag us each time.  I am thankful for those of you who started off as customers and have become friends, sounding boards, advice givers, and soul encouragers.  You will never know how much it means when you can tell I am having a rough day to see a positive message in my inbox, to get the email that says you appreciate what we do and have brought to your life, to get a good review, to be tagged in funny memes.


I am thankful for each of the people who have worked for me over the years, the ones that have left, and obviously the ones who have stayed.  We have a good thing going, we love our painters, and we try to think of ways to make even our critics happy. ​

I never imagined I would be doing this in the way it has developed.  I had a business plan, I dream a lot, I imagine the future but if when I opened you would have told me we are where we are now I would have laughed.  I remember looking at the little space I found and thinking if I can just get x amount of people here a month I can pay my bills.  And some months that didn’t happen.  I had made a commitment though and I kept going, sinking more money in.  And it is worth it and I am grateful for all that it has been and all that it is, and for whatever it becomes.


I am thankful for my husband who believed in me or at least pretended to when he didn’t.  He was the only person that never looked at me like I was crazy when I first started out.  He is the one who encouraged me to go to the bank and get a loan, who didn’t expect me to make money at first, who let me cry when the days were hard, who encouraged me to get out of bed when I went there to hide and wallow.  Lots of people have been there for the celebrations, not as many for the disappointments.


I am thankful for my son, because it isn’t easy being the kid of a business owner.  He gets told no a lot.  He has to be pro-active and self sufficient a lot.  But I know ultimately that will serve him well.  He will have seen both sides.  The ups and downs of working in corporate America through his dad’s journey and the ups and downs of working for yourself through my journey.  I hope whatever he chooses he knows we worked hard, we played hard, and we loved hard. ​

Photo credit Mary Beth Wood Photography

Six Years.  A lot has happened in 6 years.  I have seen customers come, go, come back again, disappear after being regular fixtures to the studio, move away, get pissed at the experience or at me, been yelled at, been treated like trash, been looked down upon by artists, been hugged, been thanked, helped people celebrate, grieve, get through hurts and illnesses, painted so many things, cancelled classes we loved, taught classes we didn’t love, shampoo, rinse, repeat.  One thing that doesn’t change is my why.  Why did I open Lush Art?  It certainly wasn’t for a get rich (fast or slow) scheme.  It wasn’t because I just wanted something fun to do, didn’t want to work my tail off, wanted a little side job.


Lush Art has been a labor of love since before we opened our doors.  I worked 80 hours a week at the beginning, for no pay.  I didn’t pay myself for two years.  TWO YEARS.  That first year I lost SO MUCH MONEY and it took another year to recoup those losses.  I kept going.  Even when it was hard, even when it wasn’t what I expected it to be, even when people didn’t believe in my mission.  Why?  Because I believed in this idea.  I knew what painting had become to me as a person, a woman, a wife, a mother.  I had never painted really.  Then I moved across the country from Arkansas to North Carolina with a baby and didn’t go back to work as a hair stylist.  I was slowly losing myself day by day.  Missing a creative outlet, missing adult conversations, missing my independence, missing me.  I started painting because it was an affordable outlet.  I taught myself.  Looking back my artwork was mostly horrible.  But it wasn’t about the art.  It was about me, about who it was making me, little by little I came back to me.  I even became more than who I had been.  Painting was something that had nothing to do with being a mom, a wife.  It was just for me. ​

Then my friend Jodie and I cooked up (well more likely we drank up) this idea of painting things we liked for our friends.  It was working, slowly.  And then my husband lost his job.  And we ended up moving to Georgia. I DID NOT WANT TO MOVE HERE.  DID NOT, AT ALL.   I was angry, and sad, and disappointed.  Jon saw how unhappy I was and suggested going to the bank and getting a loan and starting a Lush Art here.  So we did.  On a hope and a prayer and a small line of credit.  I made a list of what I wanted, I found the space, and I fought tooth and nail to make it happen.  I cried.  I yelled.  I cussed.  I remember signing a three year lease and couldn’t imagine living here for 3 years.  I even had a clause put in the lease if we had to move before the time was up. ​

I happy danced when I sold those tickets.


My first class has two whole people in it.  Every month we barely squeaked by.  I saw other businesses come and go.  I realized the power in hiring help, and made the sacrifice to pay others before paying myself.  Even though I had never owned a business before, I knew the importance in building it strong before paying my pocket.  I hired Nancy, so I wasn’t teaching every single class, which would strengthen our offerings.  I slowly added more staff.


I also made the decision at that point to think completely outside of the box.  I pay my instructors in a way no other studio pays.  I pay them a commission of their class sales.  This makes my payroll so much higher than the standard but it also helps them to feel invested.  They want to promote their own classes and the others at the studio.  It has created an amazing loyalty that goes both ways.  We have very little instructor turnover.  It allows me the freedom to not live at the studio, I trust them all to get the job done, and done well each and every time.


And now I feel at home in Warner Robins, in my studio, in my life, in my roles of wife, mother, boss, artist, owner.  Are there still bad days, God yes.  Is it rainbow and unicorns?  God no.  Is it just all about painting and drinking?  No.  There’s constant things to do that have nothing to do with painting, paperwork for days, never-ending bills, inventory, responsibilities, compromises.  Is it everything I thought it would be?  No, I never could have imagined all the lives we have touched.  There are still tears and frustrations and worry and being scared.  But the laughs, the friendships, the pride in building something so amazing make continuing worth it. ​

Let me say it again for those in the back.  Life is like a painting.

We all start with a blank canvas and little by little we add to our canvas.

Are you choosing to add all one color?  Are you staying just in one area of your canvas?  Are you playing it safe?  Think of the relationships in your life...  Is everyone around you the same?  Does everyone in your tribe think, act, dress, and look alike? 

Are you ever reaching outside of your comfort zone and choosing a paint tone that may shake things up a little?

This can also work the other way.  Did you know if you mix too many colors at once, you will get muddy tones?  Are you adding so much to your canvas of life that you aren't able to enjoy anything.  Are you doing too much?  Have you left any white space to make the other aspects of your life pop?  Think of the relationships in your life...  Do you have people in your life that are so dark and life sucking that they are dulling your colors? 

My friends also tease me because I don't play.  Some people I find so life sucking I just don't interact with them.  It isn't that I want to be mean.  It is just they aren't for me and I have enough self respect for myself and my happiness that I won't put up with it.  (Also I don't have a poker face and can't train my WTF face.)  I also don't like uncomfortable clothes, shoes, situations.  Life is short, friends.  And I want to be as happy as I can when I am here.

Or are you choosing a chaos of different tones?  Is your canvas vibrant, full, with some white space balanced to allow room for your eye to enjoy it all?  Is your painting subject all on the canvas or does it move off canvas to allow breathing room and  room for imagination?

Some things I have noticed in my travels and people watching, in my businesses and interacting with so many different types of people over the years, and also learned about myself in therapy.  We often add so much to our lives we are miserable instead of living this one life we have to live as we are, who we are, why we are.  

So the next time you are unhappy, overwhelmed, miserable think about the root cause.  Is it something you can change, is it someone you can edge out of your life, is there a way to approach the situation with a better attitude?  Do you need to gesso over a section and start over?  

I learned in therapy most of my unhappiness stems from my high expectations.  The ones I put on myself and on those around me, so whenever something or someone didn't live up to what I had dreamed, expected, wanted I become sad, depressed, disappointed.  I battle with this everyday.  I can tell you that once I learned that about myself it was the biggest ah ha moment in my life.  Am I still hard on myself?  Yep.  Do I still get disappointed by those around me when I don't feel like they are giving all of themselves?  Yep.  But knowing this about myself has helped me with resetting my expectations, live a bit more in the "it is what it is" mindset.  And also move on when when something truly makes me unhappy.  

What it also makes me aware of is the energy I see sucked out of people who are so busy doing all the things, they aren't enjoying any of the things.  Take some time each day to turn off the noise.  That may mean waking up earlier (ew) or staying up later (this is me).  I read at night when everyone else is in bed to quiet it all out.  I paint to quiet it all out.  

Are you involved in too many activities?  Are your kids?  Are you allowing time to be or are you afraid of what you might find out about yourself if you quiet down?  Are the things you are involved in filling your cup or are they draining you down.  

Do I have it figured all out?  Nope.  I keep wanting to add businesses, or move to a new town, or change my hair to deal with things when they get stagnant.  I recognize it.  I am a ennegram seven.  I like new shiny things, I like the process of thinking of new things and having new experiences.  I have learned I physically need to travel to keep that fresh and new aspect in my life because exploring new things is what lights me up and fills my cup.  I also have learned it often a healthier coping mechanism when I get bored. 

So take stock of your life canvas.  What do you need to add?  What do you need to take away?   Are the people you are surrounding yourself with helping or hindering your progress?  Get in there, get messy, and live life to the fullest on your terms.  

This post was originally posted on another site and moved here.

​Why is my favorite number one?  Because we were named the BEST Paint and Sip Art Studio in Georgia!  Number ONE, my friends.  Which is amazing.  I work SOOOO hard to make sure everyone has a good time.  My staff works SOOOOO hard to make sure everyone has a good time.  I have no idea how we were chosen, who did the choosing, etc.  In my heart we are number one, always.  Now it is nice to have proof from an outside source.  Thank you to Best Things Georgia for the ranking!  We LOVE it!  Want to check out the rankings?  Click here:  https://bestthingsga.com/paint-and-wine/

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Lush Lounge is now open!  Come out and check out our new digs on Wednesday, November 15 at 6 pm for our Grand RE-opening of Lush Art just in time for our 4th Anniversary Party and the Grand Opening of Lush Lounge.  What is Lush Lounge?  It is a common use space for customers of Lush Art and Escape Artists.  We sell beer and wine, have board games to rent for a small fee, tables, chairs, sofas, and a big tv.  It is a space to relax, to connect with your friends, to hang out and enjoy our great creative vibe!  We will be having some fabulous prizes to give away the night of the event, followed by and invitation only FREE paint class for our VIPs, Very Important Painters.  Plus our friends at Just Tap'd will have a beer they brewed just for us, after a drunken conversation with Jayme the owner.  It is called Lu Shart.  Get it?!?  HAHAHAHAHA.  If you don't get it, we had a photo backdrop in our old studio and if we took the photo and didn't get all the letters in the photo it looked like it said SHART over our painters heads...  SO many people got a laugh out of that, and we prefer to laugh at ourselves and embrace our awkwardness.   So come out and taste our Lu Shart beer, register for prizes, check out the space, and hang out with our tribe.

This post was originally posted on another site and I moved it here.

​One of my favorite things is seeing Facebook friends of mine interact and tease and comment on each other’s posts and realizing they met at Lush Art. That I met them at Lush Art. I love the little community of smart, strong, (obviously brilliant since they came to Lush in the first place), creative women (and a few also obviously brilliant men) we have helped join and unite. Color, sex, sexual orientation, marital status, age doesn’t matter and never will.  ❤️❤️  I love that we have created a network of people who comment, support, and boost each other.  


Another favorite thing I did this week is meet someone for a brainstorming session.  I love other fellow business owners.  It is great to meet up for coffee and hash out issues you and they are having, offering each other solutions or just some moral support.  I met up with Lindsey of Inner Sanctuary: Be Inspired.  It is helpful to meet with another creative and figure out ways to collaborate and incorporate the businesses for a future event.  We can't wait to share our ideas!!  I will put a little hint here, mark Jan 6 on your calendar.  You have heard of a staycation right?  What about a retreat, you don't have to leave town for and you get to sleep in your own bed?  More info to come soon!  


I love to get in my head, and think about things I like to do and try and incorporate those into my business.  I love filling a niche.  So the purpose of Lush Lounge was born.  Some of my favorite things are board games, being with friends in a casual low, key comfortable place, drinking (duh, I am the Lush after all), and vegging out in comfy clothes.  Lush Lounge will provide a place for all that and much more.  We will bring you info to better your life, simplify your life, encourage you, relax you, and live a lush life.  I was so happy to work with Kelli with Lettered Grace to create the new Lush Lounge logo.  

This post was originally posted on a previous blog and reposted here. 

One of the most given excuses I hear from people of why they don't come to paint class is their fear of not having someone to go to class with them.  It is also a frequently asked question.  Does it matter if I come to class alone?  What if I don't have any friends that want to come paint with me?  Does anyone ever come to class alone?  The short answer:  YES!  Almost all of our regulars come alone, frequently.  People new to town come alone.  People traveling in the area come alone.  People that have been to class before and have seen others there alone, come alone. 


While the classes are about having fun, they aren't dependent on someone else being with you to have fun.  Also I have often seen the groups that come in and have the Debbie Downer with them.  She brings the negativity and the mood of the group down.  Leave Debbie Downer at home, and come enjoy yourself.  Interact with those around you, make new friends.  Or keep to yourself and trust your process. Many of my friends currently in my personal group of friends aka my "tribe" are painters I have met through Lush Art.  I didn't know them before they came to paint.  But my tribe can also repeat something I have said maybe a few too many times "This is why I vacation alone." 


Many of the business owners I have met to brainstorm and collaborate with have been met because I tried something on my own.  Rachel at Homegrown Yoga (Yoga, duh), Kelli at Lettered Grace (a great hand letterer who made our new logos for the businesses who I contacted through Instagram), Lindsey at Be Inspired (Reiki who I contacted through Instagram),  Montine at Paint Awake (Intuitive Art retreats), all the fabulous women I met at Inspired Retreat, Lori with Awareness Counceling, Donna at Donna Downey studios (where I go to take art classes)
to name a few.  Reach out, make a connection, but most importantly find yourself.  


I frequently do many things by myself.  I prefer to shop alone, I often take trips alone
, I don't plan self care with others (I don't coordinate massages, mani and pedis with others).  Does this mean I don't like others?  No, but when I am ready to relax and decompress I often need to do that alone.  I spend my life planning the fun of other people, so I have found to plan MY fun...  it means I often do it on my own.  


Have I always felt comfortable doing things alone?  nope.  But I am always glad I did it.  You know why?  Sometimes it is nice to have a time where the only person you have to worry about is you.  You are important.  Sure, often to get to that point I have had to make sure my family is taken care of, my businesses are left in good hands, etc.  But then when I go, I enjoy.  I read books, I go to retreats, I learn, I improve, I make goals and plans.  


So I challenge you to do something alone.  Take a trip, book a paint class, go to a coffee shop and read, go to yoga.  Pick something you have wanted to do, and the schedule of your friends or family always keeps you from going, and DO IT.  Have a drink, relax, and enjoy!  


You will learn so much about yourself, you will find that you are a good time charlie all on your own, that you get to enjoy whatever the experience is because you are doing YOU.   It isn't selfish (or weird).  It is important self care.   Keep learning, keep growing, keep being you.